I was watching Wendy Williams one day last week — how you doin’? — and American Idol alum Jordin Sparks was on there discussing her recent breakup with pop singer Jason Derulo (with his fine, caramel-drizzled self).
Supposedly the two parted ways after spending three years together, because there was a lot of pressure on Jason to pop the question. No bueno.
I’ve learned the hard way that putting too much pressure on a man is like trying to start up a car with no gas — it just ain’t gonna work, honey.
Whether or not that was actually the case with Jordin and her ex boo, I had to give it to homegirl — she didn’t seem the least bit stressed or depressed over the split. Throughout the entire interview — and you know Wendy was digging for all of the dirt, with her crazy self — Jordin remained calm, cool, collected, classy and very, very confident. You go, girl.
One thing she shared that really enlightened me was how she has learned to cope with unexpected situations, such as her recent breakup. She said whenever her life takes a major turn, she calls it a “plot twist” and then readjusts herself accordingly.
Think of when you’re watching a movie or reading a novel. Generally, the most exciting part is the plot twist — the major turning point in the story that we don’t see coming. It can throw us off for a minute and simultaneously make everything leading up to that moment make so much more sense.
But when this very thing happens to us in real life, we panic and wish fervently that things would just go back to the way they were before. So basically, we expect more versatility from a novel/movie than we do in our own lives. How pathetic does that sound?! Very.
I’ve experienced a ton of plot twists in my life — a lot of them were totally unexpected and extremely overwhelming to endure. But by the grace of God, I would always find a way to readjust and adapt to my new situations. And eventually, when I would look at everything in retrospect, things would become so much clearer to me.
So Jordin, if you happen to stumble across this blog post one day, this one is for you, with your classy, confident, ‘plot-twist expert’ self. You go, girl.