This post was first published on my previous blog.
First thing’s first… Happy New Year!!! (One week later.)
Like me, many of you are still recouping from the holiday season and getting back into the swing of your normal routines. And unlike me, many of you are kicking off 2015 the right way, by finally making good use of your overpriced, underutilized gym memberships. (Note to self: cancel Lifetime gym membership on Monday.)
And, of course, one cannot forget the infamous New Year’s Resolution (which ties back to my previous gym comment). I’ve never been big on making resolutions, but I know many people are; mainly because every year, at least ten people ask me, “Do you have any New Year’s resolutions?” And each time I’m asked this question, I cringe.
Don’t get me wrong, starting off the new year with a new-and-improved attitude and a long list of goals we’d like to achieve is great. But in all honesty, a new attitude can get old real quick, if there’s no action behind it. And that’s typically where the downfall lies for many of us when it comes to making these resolutions.
We get so hyped and wrapped up in the idea of the new year representing a fresh start and better opportunities for us, but somehow we forget the fact that we actually have to work to achieve what we want. Oftentimes people tend to boast about how much better the new year is going to be like it’s some sort of magical force field we just walk right into, where suddenly everything is amazing and all of our problems from the previous year have been instantly zapped from our lives. Well, homies and friends, we are sadly mistaken.
Despite it being the start of a whole new year, January 1 is still another day in which we have to wake up and face our own realities. Yes, we should be encouraged to achieve greater and do better than we did in the previous year. But faith without works is dead, my people (James 2:14-26). You can’t be saying your resolution is to be debt-free in the name of Jesus when you’re still running up your credit card and haven’t created not one budget. Or you can’t say you’re leaving your “old bae” and “fake friends” in the previous year when you just hit up the same boo and crew to hang out with you on New Year’s Eve. Change for the better starts with us breaking bad habits. The real resolution is facing the reality of our situations and then actually doing something about it. And in all honesty, we should be striving to make a change for the better every single day — not just waiting until we reach the cusp of a new year.
I hope you know I’m preaching to myself, too. A lot of times when I read memoirs and personal blogs, it seems that the author has already endured and conquered all of their ish, figured out life, and now they’re preaching to me about it. And that’s awesome. But we never stop going through things. And to be real with y’all, that’s why I love blogging so much. It’s my personal outlet for dealing with life, while giving other people something to read and relate to.
But moving along — I went off on a minor tangent, there — in the spirit of new beginnings and such, I feel that now is the perfect time to tell you I am launching my personal website very, very soon, called AccordingtoKori.com. I will be moving my blog there as well, so once my website has launched, I will no longer be posting to this blog. However, the title Single Black Female will still be used for another project I am working on, so stay tuned (and don’t even think about stealing this title)!
In the meantime, I’d like to thank everyone who has been following and reading my blog. God has been moving so much in my life, and I am super excited for what He has in store for me. And as always, I can’t wait to share it with you!!