I’m just gonna dive right on in here. Our society is very screwed up. For real. Screwed up to the point where I seriously wonder how in the literal hell (yes, I’m referring to Amerikkka) I’m going to raise kids of my own one day. Excuse my French, but seriously. Like there is actually a school in Virginia that is strongly considering implementing a MANDATORY gender identification course into its sex education curriculum, which I’m certain is going to be the first of many, if not every school in Amerikkka (I will speak on my choice of spelling at a later time. Meanwhile, God Bless the families of the the Charleston church massacre victims).
That brings me to all of this foolery over Rachel Dolazel. If, for whatever reason, you do not know who this woman is by now (i.e. you decided to be one with the wilderness and live under a rock for the past week), please press pause on reading this post and pay my girl Googlisha a quick visit for all of the tea, crumpets and cucumber sandwiches.
For the past week I have witnessed Facebook statuses morph into lengthy discussion boards right before my eyes. All over this one white woman who has been pretending to be black — and getting away with it — for the past 10 years. Cue in all the angry folk who always gotta be angry about something, the openly opinionated/argumentative folk (I’m in this category), the super religious folk and the super-duper liberal folk, and you’ve got yourself a full-blown social media war. I literally have spent the majority of this past week reading comments, responding to comments, and liking other comments I agree with before piggy-backing off of those comments. After repeating this process several times, it finally hit me — Duh!
I have a blog.
So here’s what I’m not gonna do. I’m not about to give you a full rundown of how/why Rachel Dolazel is wrong, or crazy, or whatever. I’ll leave that issue with God and the plethora of heated debate clogging up my Facebook newsfeed. I’m here to openly address the blatant hypocrisy of this severely twisted society we live in.
My confusion lies in the fact that the same folks who were literally just applauding Jenner’s decision, excuse me, courage to openly embrace his “true gender” are now up in arms about JD’s decision to openly embrace her “true race.” Five seconds ago y’all were floating around in La La Land talking about how we should all have the freedom to choose who we want to be. Then along comes this random white woman from Spokane, Wash., wearing a spray tan, some melanin-toned Mac bronzer and a Solange wig claiming that she identifies as black, and now folk wanna decide to wake up and smell the delusion shouting, “You are out of bounds! You’re only allowed to identify as another gender, not another race!” Whaaaaaaat? *Jon Stewart face*
How can someone be out of bounds in a society that literally has NO moral boundaries? Serious question. I’ll wait.
Many of you argue that no other race can duplicate the Black experience. This is true, for infinite reasons. I can just as easily — and truthfully — state that no man can duplicate the true essence of womanhood (and vice versa), regardless of how much he thinks he identifies with being a woman.
But society would immediately label me a “bigot” or “intolerant” for stating the latter. Society will argue that gender is a social construct but race is not. That a person can “feel” like they are another gender but it is impossible to “feel” like you are supposed to be another race. Says who?? Who in the literal hell is making up these rules?? BOTH people are exercising a blatant form of self rejection! Someone please just mail me the official rule book on social construct so I can understand all of this, because I honestly can’t keep up. I identify with my God-given gender just as much as I identify with my God-given race. Keyword: God-given.
What’s so ironic to me is the fact that the very folks who are quick to spew out the words “bigot” or “intolerant” in someone else’s face are the main ones who act like no one is allowed to have an opinion or viewpoint divergent from theirs. Just yesterday, this guy I went to college with said — and by “said” I mean typed a comment on Facebook — that my opinion is a bunch of “radicalism and bullshit,” among other ignorant pleasantries that I couldn’t care less to repeat. Meanwhile, I’d already told this young man that I was perfectly fine with agreeing to disagree (and God knows how much He is working on me in that area) because there’s no point in going back and forth over an issue that we simply can’t see eye to eye on. But dude takes it to a whole n’otha level by insulting me, my opinion and even my intellectual capacity. I told him to be blessed and unfriended his disrespectful behind. Because if we can’t hold a mature, adult conversation in which we can calmly and respectfully express our viewpoints to one another, I literally can’t associate with you. Period.
So I’m gonna wrap up this very mind-boggling issue with a few rhetorical questions — notice I said rhetorical — and personal thoughts, and I’m gonna just leave them all right here so I can move on with my life.
To American Society: Why are you so hypocritical?? How is it acceptable and courageous for one person to identify as a completely different gender, and deplorable for another person to identify as a completely different race? Where is the logic or truth behind ANY of it, seeing that both cases reflect a severe form of self rejection in one way or another? Again, I’d really appreciate that rule book. Thanks in advance.
To all the angry folk who are still ranting on my Facebook newsfeed: Why y’all so mad? Like seriously though. As a black woman, I wholeheartedly agree that RD is wrong on an uncountable number of levels that I have neither the space nor the energy to dissect. But this is one woman — one — who is clearly confused about who she is. Pray for her and channel your passionate energy towards figuring out ways we can empower our own people, instead of finding a million and one reasons to tear this severely unstable woman down.
To my fellow opinionated folk, still trying to prove a point: Let it go. Agree to disagree. Let’s not get caught up and consumed by the spirit of bigotry. Understand that not everyone is going to share your opinions or beliefs, which honestly speaks to the intricacy and beauty of how God designed our powerful minds. We each have the ability to perceive, process and analyze things in our own way. Whatever way that is, use it to spread positive light and truth, rather than constant criticisms, diresprect and hatred.
To my super religious folk: And by “religious” I’m referring to those of us who are quick to throw certain parts of the Word of God at everyone except for the person standing in the mirror. The Bible does say to guard your heart and that we are not to be of the world, but Jesus also said that we are to love one another as we love ourselves. The best way we can show the God in us is by giving unconditional love and showing compassion for EVERYONE — that includes those who exercise their free will to lead non-traditional lifestyles. We are already living in a messed up world, so the last thing God needs is a bunch of hypocrites speaking on His behalf. You don’t have to compromise your convictions and beliefs in order to show genuine love and compassion. That’s true Christianity and true evangelism.
Which brings me to my super-duper liberal folk: Although many people who claim to be Christians can be super judgmental, that is honestly not what the Bible teaches us to do (please see above). But as one believer who is constantly growing in Christ, I would like to personally tell you that while I love and respect you for who you are, I still hold firm to my beliefs and values. Respect that, instead of constantly trying to force yours onto me. We ALL have the liberty and free will to make decisions in life that are either of God, or not of God. Plain and simple. Just know that every decision we make in life has a consequence that each of us will have to personally answer to on Judgment Day. None of us are exempt from the Truth.
With that being said, be blessed and stay woke, people.