So I know y’all heard about how my girl Reney — Serena, for those of you who don’t know her like that — served supreme slayage and won the Wimbledon championship last week. And I’m beyond certain she gave replenished and prolonged life when she won Best Female Tennis Player for the SEVENTH time in her career at this year’s
Caitlyn Jenner ESPY Awards, which aired on Wednesday. And don’t even get me started on all this foolywang about how her “manly physique” is the reason behind her countless athletic victories (I’m referring to Serena, not Caitlyn…I know, it’s confusing).
I’m not even gonna go there with y’all today — I simply don’t have the time, energy or patience to address the buffoonery. And plus, Reney is too busy slaying and getting her eyebrows snatched to be worried about your opinions.
But one thing I will say is, the hate is real outchea. No matter what we do, say, or accomplish in life, best believe someone is lurking in the shadiest of shadows, side-eyeing you. But hey, no one can really enjoy the sunshine without a little shade, right? (I mean, unless you’re doing some pretty hardcore tanning.)
I’ve had people genuinely dislike me for reasons still unknown. I’ve had folk talk recklessly behind my back. I’ve had “friends” be front row and center at all of my venting sessions, only to be sitting way up in the nose-bleeds during my monumental moments. At one point, I allowed it all to affect me. But I’ve learned that going through life worrying about people hating on you is like holding your breath for an indefinite period of time — it’ll only cut your life short.
So here are a couple of ways I’ve learned how to deal with haters:
- Don’t. Continue to do you and focus on fulfilling God’s purpose for your life, rather than waste your time and energy worrying about some two-faced shade monster who craves and thrives on the failures of others. The one way to get to a hater is to not allow a hater to get to you.
- Pray for them. There are two types of haters: ones who are jealous of you, and ones who envy you. I went to this motivational event a few months ago and the speaker, pastor and best-selling author Van Moody, said that jealousy and envy are actually two different things. Jealousy is when someone wants what you have. Envy is when someone doesn’t want you to have something if they don’t have it. Both are toxic traits. Be conscious of who these people are in your life, pray for them, and keep it moving (see Step 1).
- Shake it off, smile, and slay like Serena. Don’t let these devils steal your joy, saints. ‘Cause Reney shole ain’t.