So I was sitting at work yesterday — working, of course… And possibly, occasionally checking my Facebook newsfeed. *cough* Anyway, this random photo of a gorgeous, bathing suit-clad Smith family (sans Trey and Jaden) pops up on my feed, courtesy of xoNecole.com. The picture was perfection on fleek (Jada = Body/Skin/Abs/Triceps/Everything else I missed Goals). But the caption and comments were what really caught my attention.
The caption was actually a statement Mrs. Smith had made regarding her and Will’s relationship. This is what she said:
“I always walk three steps behind him to his left. Anything that comes toward him from behind, I encounter first. I can clearly see what advances to his right and his left. I also have my sights on what approaches ahead. If I stand beside my King, I can only focus on what’s ahead and if he swings his sword…I will surely be struck. Three steps behind is the most powerful position for a Queen.”
Which brings me to the comments. Y’all already know the super feminists were ’bout ready to nail my girl Jada to the wall. And at first, I was straight like…
But I’m a blogger. Which means that 99.7% of the time when I have an opinion about something, I’m going to vocalize it. The remaining .3% is when I feel like being an actual grown-up who picks and chooses her battles (God is still working on me). But in this case, the majority won.
Which means there was only a matter of time before I would stop eating my popcorn and start impulsively shouting out my own ad libs at the movie screen (aka type out a dissertation-length comment):
“Just my 2 cents and a nickel lol: I don’t think Jada is saying that she LITERALLY walks behind Will during an evening stroll down Melrose Avenue, but what I got from it is that she allows him to play his position as a man while she plays hers as a woman. In my eyes, they are working together to defend one another and carry out a greater purpose. Hear me out:
Men were designed to lead and protect. Women were created to be enhancers, nurturers and life givers. No, this does not mean we are INFERIOR to men. No, this does not mean women can’t hold executive positions in the workforce. I’m talking about the purpose of men and women as far as our relationship with one another to carry out a greater purpose. God created us different for a reason. Women have a very powerful and unique role. We are multipliers. A man can give a woman an idea, and she will make it a plan. Groceries, and she will make it a meal, A house, and she will make it a home. Sperm, and she will make a baby with it. We are capable of seeing things from all angles, because we are very detailed and strategic in our thinking.
Nowadays, a lot of us tend to think that playing a different role than the man means we are inferior. This is not true. It just literally means we are in a different position to help carry out a greater purpose under God’s will. We are all equal, but we still have different roles and positions to play as men and women. We were created to work together and complement one another.”
I hit ‘Enter’, let out a sigh of relief (’cause clearly I needed to get that off my chest), closed out my Facebook tab, and got back to work. Later on as I was finishing my work for the day, I decided to check Facebook before shutting down my computer. My sermon-comment had received almost 200 likes and over 20 responses in less than an hour (and as I’m writing this post at 2-something in the morning, that number has grown to over 2,400 likes and 160 responses).
My stomach balled up in a hard knot (and I might’ve passed gas a little). I was certain most of the responses would be backlash from a bunch of women who believed they could do bad all by themselves. But surprisingly, each comment, one after the next (with the exception of a few), expressed an unexpected level of appreciation — laud, even — for my statement. I was shocked. Mainly because I had no idea that there were so many people who shared my sentiments.
This has inspired me to start a blog series discussing the complementary roles and purposes of men and women. I will be referencing a phenomenal book I am currently reading, titled Understanding the Purpose and Power of the Woman and its counterpart Understanding the Purpose and Power of the Man (which I will be reading next). Both were written by a true wise Man of God, the late Dr. Myles Munroe. I encourage you all to join me in reading and discussing!