Today I woke up in a good mood. A very good mood, actually. After I thanked the Good Lord for another day, I sat in bed for a minute, just thinking about life. Then I grabbed my phone and hopped on social media (a very, very bad habit that I really need to break). Anyway, I get on Twitter and see a bunch of folk on my timeline tweeting about Ayesha Curry. I immediately wonder what all the hype could possibly be about at 9:00 on a Sunday morning. So I checked the trending topics and sure enough, Ayesha Curry was the first one on the list, so I began to investigate.
Long story short, there was a legit overnight Twitter debate over something AC tweeted regarding her choice of style. Here’s the tweet below:
Everyone's into barely wearing clothes these days huh? Not my style. I like to keep the good stuff covered up for the one who matters ???
— Ayesha Curry (@ayeshacurry) December 6, 2015
Then some of this happened…
@ayeshacurry Girl bye! Do u and let others do them! Quit fucking preaching and let ur husband be great!
— Bebe O (@Bebe_o2) December 6, 2015
Who's everyone? What's wrong with not being covered up? Are you saying you're better that women who show off their figures? @ayeshacurry
— felicia jean (@felicianista) December 6, 2015
.@ayeshacurry 1- who is this "everyone" you're talking about? 2 – your body has more purpose than just to please your man, beloved.
— ANA (@full_of_moxie) December 6, 2015
Ayesha Curry kid bad behaving the little one name Riley but she has the nerve to talk down on girls who choose to walk naked.
— Misjudged & Misfits (@_BlueLavender) December 6, 2015
Her statement enforces the idea that there are hierarchies of women & our worth can be based upon outfits choice https://t.co/GQQ6jdG9b7
— The Unorthodox Duck (@GeauxGabby) December 6, 2015
@GeeKySquaD it sounds like she's throwing shade at women who chose to wear less
— Ariel ❣ (@arielahh) December 6, 2015
One chick even went so far as to write an entire thinkpiece on why AC’s tweet was so wrong……… I’ll just leave that right there.
Aside from the fact that I believe without a shadow of a doubt that Ayesha Curry is my long-lost sistafriend whom I will one day perform an array of epic dubsmashes with, I saw absolutely nothing wrong with what she tweeted (because what’s really so wrong about a married woman expressing her choice to save all her treats for her man??). However, my purpose here is not to write an entire essay on why I 1000% agree with Ayesha Curry, or to chastise my sistas who prefer to show a little more skin than others — my point is to ask a few questions as to why folk are going so hard about one woman expressing her PERSONAL OPINION.
- Why do y’all care so much? Is it because she said that walking around half-naked isn’t her personal preference? Or is it because it’s yours? If it is, by all means do you, boo. No one is stopping you from living your life, and you certainly don’t need anyone’s validation to do so. But if you’re tripping because you were convicted by AC’s tweet in some way, there’s really no need to get mad or defensive about it. Since it affected you so much, either reevaluate your wardrobe selections or get out of your feels and keep it moving, sis.
- Since when does one’s personal values become a full-fledged heated topic of debate? Someone choosing to publicly express their personal opinion about something that doesn’t fully align with your own beliefs and perspectives doesn’t make yours invalid. It just makes their opinion, their opinion — not a call to battle.
- When will folk stop getting so sensitive about everything they see on social media? Like seriously, y’all. This is getting waaaaay out of hand. Every little thing someone says isn’t worthy of a debate. Let bygones be bygones and stop letting folk’s opinions get you all bent out of shape.
- If Amber Rose posted a tweet about how she prefers to walk around showing off all her ass-ets, would y’all still be mad? Probably not. Because in today’s society, this would be viewed as a woman proudly owning her sexuality. On the flip side, I feel like a lot of times when people express wholesome morals and values that go against the mainstream views of society, they’re condemned as being “judgmental” or “holier than thou.” But just because a married woman chooses to wear a cute cardigan and save her goodies for her hubby in the bedroom doesn’t mean she’s being condescending — it just means she knows her own limits and boundaries.
We gotta stop being so quick to react to everything someone says and start recognizing and respecting that everyone is allowed to possess — and express — their own opinions.
On a lighter note, Ayesha, if you ever happen to read this post, thank you for being such a positive influence on young women. You, Steph and your beautiful family are truly admired.