The older I get, the more I’m beginning to realize how hard it is to have friends and be an adult at the same time. Responding to calls and texts and planning consistent brunch/happy hour dates while trying to balance a full-time job, pay your bills on time, pursue your life dreams, exercise on the regular, eat right, keep your hair and nails popping, and maintain a dating life (if you’re not already married with kids) takes hella work. And yeah, I get it — you make time for what you wanna make time for (’cause I know that’s EXACTLY what some of y’all are thinking right now). But all I’m saying is, that ish is a lot easier said than done.
I’ma be honest — I’m terrible at keeping in touch with people. Between winding down from work, working on my blog, taking out time to pray, meditate and make mediocre use of my gym membership, checking in and catching up with folk isn’t necessarily at the top of my to-do list. So it’s easy for me to look at a text or incoming call and be like, “I’ll hit them back later” (which is actually code for “I’ll try to respond within a decent period of time before I forget”). It sounds horrible but y’all know it’s the truth.
Oftentimes it’s so easy for us to get caught up in our day-to-day lives that we almost forget we have homies we used to talk to and kick it with on the regular. It’s not that we don’t still love and care about them, we just be burnt out from trying to balance everything else in our lives. I also have to remind myself of this whenever I’m the one reaching out to a friend who doesn’t respond right away, ’cause I be sensitive too.
But anyway, I’m trying to do better with the keeping in touch thing. Over the past week I was able to link up with some close friends of mine and we spent the entire time sharing the latest news on our careers, love lives, travel plans and financial goals. Although it had been a little minute since we’d seen or spoken to each other, we were able to catch up in no time. We may not talk or hang out as much as we used to, but at the end of the day we’re all going through similar circumstances, which is all the more reason why we gotta pause from our lives every once in a while to check in on one another.
And social media doesn’t count.