Every Father’s Day my sister Erin and I practice a sacred ritual of waiting ’til the very last minute to buy a gift. We usually get up and go to the grocery store, come home and make a huge breakfast, and then head back out to the store to find daddy a present. But since Erin recently moved back to D.C., I had to hold down our beloved tradition solo this year.
So after breakfast I took my dad to the mall to pick out his gift. On the way there, we had a conversation about things I want to achieve in life and certain decisions I’ve made relating to finances, relationships, etc. I love having these kinds of talks with my dad because he’s so chill and so wise. Plus, it’s always interesting to hear things from his perspective with him being the only man in the house (and living with three Winters women is no easy task lol).
During our conversation, my daddy dropped a few gems that I want to share with y’all real quick:
- Live your life for YOU. It’s easy for me to get caught up in what other people think, especially the people I care about. And that’s because I value their opinion and don’t want to disappoint the people I love most. But one thing my dad told me during our talk is that I have to live my life the way I see fit and make decisions that I feel are best for me. It’s OK to consider other people’s opinions and perspectives, but don’t allow them to consume you and dictate how you make decisions or live your life.
- Stay focused and stop comparing yourself to others. When you’re not exactly where you want to be in life, comparing yourself to others can become a bad habit and lately that’s been my problem. But my dad had to remind me that everyone has their own set of gifts and talents, and it’s up to us to focus and tap into those gifts in order to bring them out into the world.
- Act how you want to live. We all have the power to live the lives we want, but there’s a process we have to go through in order to get to that point. “You want a new job? Do what you need to do to get a new job,” my dad told me. “You want to move out? Do what you need to do to move out. When you want to do something, it’s a certain mindset and level of discipline you have to take on in order to do it.”
To my daddy, thank you for your incredible advice and for always being an amazing father, a phenomenal husband and a wonderful man of God. I love you dearly!
And to those of you reading this, what are some words of wisdom you’ve received from someone you admire recently? Share the wealth!