The first time I saw the preview for Girl’s Trip, my mind instantly went into “Just wait ’til it comes out on DVD” mode. I figured it was gonna be your typical Blackbuster flick complete with gorgeous, strong, successful and low-key pretentious women who are all facing some sort of crisis in their careers and/or love lives; a couple of male melanin demigods to spice things up a bit; and a nice dose of ratchetry to bring it all together.
Actually, that’s pretty much what Girl’s Trip was, except a hundred times better. The cast was hilarious and Tiffany Haddish had me hysterical the entire time. If y’all thought her interview on Jimmie Kimmel was funny, GO SEE GIRL’S TRIP. She honestly made that whole movie.
But as comical as Girl’s Trip was, it was also filled with practical life lessons and takeaways. Here’s a list of notes I jotted down:
- I am lame because I still have never been to Essence Fest. Or Nola. And this has been on my vision board since I first started making vision boards back in 2014. So the fact that pretty much the entire film was set in Nola during Essence Fest was all the confirmation and conviction I needed to stop playing and get my life together. That said, I WILL be going next year (along with probably thousands of other people saying the exact same thing now that they’ve seen Girl’s Trip. Essence knew what they were doing by having their biggest event of the year be included as the backdrop for the film, and it was genius).
- I need a friend like Tiffany Haddish’s character (Dina). Actually, I just need Tiffany Haddish to be my friend in real life. And when I do go to Essence Fest next year, she will be coming with me so we can find hella Groupon deals and go joyriding around the city together in her $20/day rental car. (EDIT: Actually, with all this shine Tiff has been getting lately, she’ll probably be upgrading to a $50/day rental.)
- Everything ain’t always what it seems. It’s easy to look at someone on social media and think they have it all (movie reference), but you never know what that person may be going through behind closed doors. The fact of the matter is, no one is perfect — we’re all human with real issues and insecurities (and speaking of which, Insecure post coming soon).
- Real friends will keep it real with you, even when it hurts. They won’t let you walk out of the house looking crazy without telling you to change that uglass outfit. They won’t sit by and let you pretend like everything is okay when they know it’s not. We all need friends who are gonna be straight-up with us, no matter how hard the truth may be sometimes.
- But no matter how real they are, every friend shouldn’t be allowed to pour your drink unattended. ESPECIALLY if that friend is anything like
- Kofi Siriboe is a unicorn. A unicorn manifested from magical cocoa beans, honey, raw shea butter and golden pixie dust.
- Larenz Tate is also a unicorn. See recipe above and add a tablespoon of caramel.
- “Grapefruit” is a verb. If you don’t know what this means and would like to find out, go see the movie.
- Zip-lining across Bourbon Street while intoxicated and wearing a dress with no undergarments is a bad idea. Again, go see the movie.
- Black women know how to have fun — and we look good doing it. We may be strong, independent and magical, but we still like to let loose and have a good time every once in a while, too, and we have every right to do so.
- Check on your friends. Even if it’s just a quick call or a text to see how they’re doing. It’s easy to get caught up in our own little bubbles of life, but we have to remember to reach out to the ones we care about because none of us are in this alone.
- I need to plan a girl’s trip. Next year. To Essence Fest. If you’d like to join me and Tiffany, speak up now because there are only two more spots available.
- (EDIT) Duh, the most important one of all: Self-love! No man/woman, job or amount of money can outweigh your value. Remember you are royalty — a child of The Most High — who was fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14) with purpose, promise and potential. Believe that! Self-love is the best love.