I’m sure we can all touch and agree on the fact that being an adult is hella stressful at times (and by at times I mean 99.99% of the time). I’d say the most challenging part for me is balancing a full-time job with my personal responsibilities, goals and passion projects, all while trying to keep my skin moisturized, hair deep-conditioned and sanity intact.
The closer I get to 30 (I can’t believe that’s only two and a half years away) the more pressure I put on myself to get my life together. I call 2017 my “year of tough love” because it’s forced me to sit down and take a long, hard look at who/where I am versus who/where I ultimately want to be. And what I’m continuously learning and re-learning in this season is that in order to balance everything I’m doing AND take ish to the next level, my mindset, habits and priorities need some reconstructing.
I’m currently reading The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey and the very first habit, be proactive, was a HUGE self-check for me. One of the main things it talked about was proactive vs. reactive folk — people who are solutions-driven vs. those who are emotionally driven. Proactive people operate from a space called the “circle of influence,” meaning they focus their energy on things they can actually do something about. On the other hand, reactive people operate from a space called the “circle of concern,” meaning they focus on the weaknesses of other people, the problems in the environment and circumstances they have no control over. For a while now, I’ve been leaning more towards the latter category.
But lately I’ve been channeling my energy and efforts towards being proactive in every aspect of my life. Focusing on the things I have control over in order to create positive, effective change rather than harping on meaningless things that are beyond my control. So as I continue in my journey of achieving balance and proactivity, here are some things I’m working on:
- Remembering to breathe. For peace.
- Reading. For wisdom.
- Writing things down. For focus.
- Taking my time. For patience.
- Exercising self-care. For me.
What are you doing to achieve and/or maintain balance in your life?