This Is Us is back on. Hallelujah.
And also yes, I’ve returned from my two-month blogging hiatus, but we clearly have more important things to discuss right now so, I’ll come back to that.
Quite a bit happened on the season premiere this week, but what I’d like to focus our attention on today is the day Jack and Rebecca first met.
With just $9 in his pocket, a young, smitten Jack was ready to risk it all (the nine dollars, I mean) to take this cool, cute chick he’d just met – Rebecca — on a date to the carnival. And as y’all can see, his budget was VERRRY limited. He paid two dollars for them to get into the carnival and three dollars for a hot chocolate and a
nasty-looking candy apple (both were for Rebecca), which left him with two dollars to cash out on some carnival games and hopefully win a prize. Sure enough, it starts raining — pouring, actually. Rebecca spots a man nearby selling umbrellas for two dollars, and suggests they (aka Jack) buy one to keep them from getting soaked. Since Jack only has two dollars left to his name, he hesitantly declines. Of course, Rebecca has no clue about Jack’s financial woes, so after that, everything pretty much goes downhill from there. When Jack drops Rebecca off, sis is ready to chuck the deuces. Right as she’s getting out of the car, Jack does two remarkable things: 1) he tells her the truth about his financial situation and 2) he tells her how he genuinely feels about her (with that cute, Jack-ish look in his eyes). And just like that, Rebecca is hooked and the night ends with a kiss.
So what did we learn here today?
Lesson #1: NEVER ask a woman out on a date you aren’t prepared for.
I’ll admit that seeing Jack spend his last dollar to take the girl of his dreams out on a date gave me all the feels because: Jack. But IN REAL, ACTUAL LIFE? Nah, bruh. Come holla at me after you’ve collected enough coinage for you to take me out on a proper date. The thing is, it’s not even so much about how much you’re spending on the date as it is about knowing what you can and can’t afford to do, and dating within those means. If you got $10 in your pocket, take me to the park or a museum (both are free) and let’s grab some $2 tacos off a food truck (anything involving tacos is an automatic win in my book). ‘Cause if you ask me out on a date and aren’t prepared to cover the costs of the date you asked me out on, what that basically tells me is that you shouldn’t be on a date at all. What you should be doing is taking time for yourself, getting your ish together.
I’ll never forget the time this one dude asked me out on a date and suggested we try this restaurant he’d heard about — apparently the food was good and the wine selection was even better (and y’all know I love me some wine). Cool. We get there, get seated at our table, and look at the menu. Majority of the prices are about mid- to high 20s, a couple in the low 30s. I would’ve been straight with some wings and cheese fries from Outback, but I figured ol’ dude was trying to go take me somewhere a little more upscale. Not mad it. But then I soon discovered this wasn’t the case.
As we’re looking at the menu, he seems super uncomfortable (like how Jack was when Rebecca asked him to buy that $2 umbrella). After a few moments of silence, he asks if I see anything I want on the menu (which is code for “how much you about to have me spending on this date”). I told him I saw a couple things I might want to try (both are on the lower end of the price scale). He goes quiet again. At this point, it’s obvious he doesn’t want to eat here. I ask him if he sees anything. His response? “Nah, not really. I’m about to look up some other spots.” Now I’m annoyed and the vibe is awkward. We leave and we wind up going to this beer-and-burger joint up the street. Now whether the dude wasn’t trying to spend that type of money or just genuinely didn’t see anything he wanted on the menu is beside the point. The point is, this is the year 2018 of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. If you’re gonna be out here suggesting swanky new restaurants to try, AT LEAST look up the menu pricing beforehand. A quick Google search. Yelp review. Something.
Lesson #2: Keep it 100.
Jack wound up redeeming himself by doing something many guys probably wouldn’t do in his predicament — he told the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth. He could’ve easily not said anything about his situation to save face, but his decision to be open with Rebecca showed that even though he was flawed, he was genuine. I can’t speak for all women, but I can certainly speak for myself when I say that being transparent is everything. Personally I just have a lot more respect for folk who keep it real even when they don’t have to.
Any dating tips or stories you wanna share?